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What are some small ways to make her day in a long distance relationship?

I’ve been in a committed long distance relationship for about 2 years now. I would like to get some ideas for little things to make her day (e.g. send a handwritten letter or flowers) that might be a bit more out of the box. What are some ideas that you would recommend?

I’ve been in a long distance relationship for a year now. My boyfriend finds a way to make me feel special every single day, and it’s always something little.

He always calls me first thing in the morning [[for me]] to wake me up – he’s 3 hours ahead of me. But he always makes sure that his voice is the first I hear every morning. I don’t even need an alarm clock because I always know he will call at just the time I need him to.

One time he sent me roses to my office, just because. That was so sweet… I had a big dumb grin on all day. Even though it’s traditional and kind of un-original, it totally made my day.

Hand written letters are good. What we have is a scrap book [[which is actually just a composition notebook from walmart]] where we keep pictures of us in it and things like plane tickets to see each other, little souvenirs from what we did together [[e.g. movie tickets, parts of maps of places we went to, etc.]] and stuff like that. When we are apart, we write letters to each other in it and mail it back and forth. Whenever I get lonely, I look at it and read his letters to me. It’s unique.

Send her a gift certificate to a restaurant so she can take a couple of her friend out. Then you haven’t only pleased her, but all her friends as well, which will REALLY please her.

I’m not sure if you guys are planning to move closer anytime soon like we are, but what I have always found fun to do is “virtual house shopping.” We stay on the phone and look at houses on the internet together. We even have our own wish list at Bed Bath and Beyond where we have compiled all the house furniture, dishes and decorations that we want. We even know the colors for every room of the house we don’t even have yet. It’s fun to plan for the future together and it’s very reassuring.

My heart always jumps every time I get a little text from him during the. What’s really special is sometimes he will send me a part of the lyrics from *our* song…

One time we both went for a walk while we were talking on the phone, even though we live 3000 miles away from each other. We were both walking in a park-like setting so it was a great element that added some excitement to the usual phone conversation.

This sounds cheesy, but we have both rented the same movie and watched it together over the phone. We would count to 3 and hit play at the same time so the movie was in sync, then we could laugh and react to all the same parts together. Only do this if you have a good phone plan though…

And finally, just make sure to let her know that she is special just by telling her. Lines like, “I love you so much, I’m the luckiest man in the world to have you…” always get me.

Hope that helps!

Long distance relationship,5983 miles apart.

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